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Parents: Brandi Bridges and Levi Mines
Baby's name: Roland Oliver Mines
Baby's date of birth: 30/06/2018
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Where did you plan to give birth?
Where did you actually give birth?
Tell us about your pregnancy
I was very lucky with another straightforward pregnancy. I was a bit more nauseous and tired than with my first, but that could be because I was running around chasing a toddler all day! That and we were still in the States when I found out I was pregnant and didn’t move here until my second trimester so all of the packing to move across the world happened during my first trimester! It was quite exhausting. I had SIJ pain but was able to self-treat well. Thankfully there were no medical complications. When I was looking for a midwife in NZ, I was asking questions about things like “do you feel comfortable with me labouring with no pain medication” and “would you feel comfortable checking my progress in different labouring positions?” to which all the midwives looked at me like I had 3 heads and said, “of course!” I didn’t realise that this birthing process was the “norm” in NZ, as an epidural birth is the “norm” and the expected course in the States! I was very pleased with the amount of support that was here.
What happened when you went into labour?
My parents and my mother-in-law were all planning on flying in for the birth. I had my first child at 38 weeks so I told them to be here no later than 38 weeks so as to not stress me out. My parents flew in on Tuesday and I began having contractions, my midwife saw me on Thursday when I was officially 38 weeks, my MIL flew in on Friday and the contractions were becoming more frequent, and I went into labor on Saturday morning. I woke up and felt the familiar feeling of contractions with pressure (not really pain) that was not slowing down. My husband and MIL were at the Grower’s Market so I called and told them to head back home. I timed the contractions and called my wonderful midwife when they were 4 minutes apart. She came to the house to check my progress and told me that I was 8 cm dilated and that we should head to the hospital right away! I was so excited and nervous, but I was so relieved that he/she (we didn’t find out the gender ahead of time) had waited until all of the grandparents were here! My dad stayed with my toddler while my mothers and partner and I went to the hospital, arriving at 10:45.
Tell us about your labour and how it progressed
Once at the hospital, I began doing my normal routine since I didn’t have any pain. Just a pressure in my pelvis. I paced, bounced, squatted, and did lunges in order to try to progress the labor, but 12:15 I still hadn’t progressed past 8 cm. My midwife was very supportive and told me that if I wanted to wait and give it more time she was more than happy to wait with me, but I seemed like a very good candidate for breaking my waters. We decided to break my water, especially since I had to have my water broken for my first child as well.
Share your birth experience
My water was broken at 12:30 and the pain began, just like last time. Unlike my last birth, this one seemed to go insane and progressed super fast! It felt like I dilated the last 2 centimeters and went through transition all at once. My mothers and partner were told not to touch me or talk to me except to cheer me on with positive encouragement, which they knew was the case ahead of time. They were so amazing throughout the process and I was unbelievably thankful to have all of them there. The pain began and didn’t let up until I felt like I was going to be sick and all of a sudden I felt like I had to push. I got in the position that I was most comfortable in (on my knees with my hands on the head of the elevated bed), and the pushing was over much faster than last time, with the midwife coaching me on the tempo of pushing to minimise the risk of tears (as I requested). My son was born at 12:53 with no complications and no tears, which I was crazy thankful for! We left the hospital that night at 8:00 pm and went home with our little bundle of joy
What things would you do the same?
I would definitely use the same midwife! She was so fantastic throughout the whole process, very understanding when speaking to me about my fears, and very supportive of everything that I wanted to do. I would also probably give birth in the hospital again, the staff were all very nice and supportive, all had positive words for me.
Would you do anything differently?
Honestly? Nothing. It was a wonderful experience.
What advice would you give to other mums?
Trust your instincts, try to appreciate the process for what it is, and definitely have people who you trust surrounding you if possible!
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