I was talking with a mum last week about how much we can doubt ourselves as mums.
This mama had done some sleep training with her first baby, around the 6-month mark, with a lot of support from her wonderful health visitor who had seen how much this mum was struggling.
The sleep training was successful and at five her little girl is a great sleeper.
But even five years later, reading articles online this mama still doubts whether she did the right thing or not and it got me thinking.
Social Media can at times bombard us with information that makes us doubt ourselves as a mum.
There are many big characters out there in cyberspace who often have strong options. They are quick to tell you that sleep training is damaging your baby, or that babywearing is spoiling your baby, and so on and so on!
It is important to remember that most of the time these are just their opinions!!!!
You need to choose what is right for you and your baby. You need to do what is right for your family.
You should not feel bad that someone else’s opinion and parenting is different from yours.
No matter who they are or how big their following is!
Please, Mama, you do you.
If your baby doesn’t sleep and you are happy to get up to them in the night that is ok.
If you want to sleep train your baby because you can’t cope with not sleeping anymore and are going slightly mad that is ok too.
Either way, your baby will be fine because you are doing what is right for your family.
At the end of the day if your baby is healthy, meeting their milestones and thriving then you are doing a great job mama!
Choose who you follow on social media, share the things that make you laugh with your friends. Take on board the good stuff – the things that build you up and make you feel like you are rocking this motherhood gig and simply delete or unfollow those that don’t.
I love how social media can bring us together. I love how we use it to connect with each other up. When we are struggling it can help to know that someone else has been through it and come out the other side. Mums are fantastic at sharing, helping and empathizing - because we get it!
We know what it’s like!
So as cliche as it sounds find your tribe. Find the women that lift you up and tell you that you are doing a great job or that tomorrow will be another day to have another go at this mothering gig. Some days being a mum is hard and we need our cheerleaders - whether they are the ones pouring you a cup of tea or they are sending you a virtual hug. As long as they are there at the end of the day that is what matters.
Because "There is no way to be a perfect mum and a million ways to be a good one."
If you are looking for an online group that supports mums, gives them a platform to ask questions and is judgment-free then you need to join our
Facebook Group The Hood for Mums.